My relationship with my girlfriend has really changed over the last few years that I’ve known her. First, the story will make much more sense with some brief background information.
I have spent my life almost entirely in San Jose, all my schooling and work have been primarily in this area. My girlfriend, Jinny, is from Hawaii and still resides in Oahu. We met two years ago at church convention in Las Vegas, but never really thought anything about our friendship. We got along during the retreat but after the week was over we didn’t’ speak much or even at all. Things started to change when her best friend moved to the Bay Area from Oahu and I began to talk to her through her friend.
Long story short, I ended up talking to Jinny more and more and we slowly became good friends, best friends, and eventually in a relationship. We went from not remembering that each other existed, I-It relationship. Only asking the casual how have you been, what have you been up to questions, never getting into great detail about our personal lives. We eventually became close friends, I-You relationship. Where we both began to confide in one another began to share are past and future aspirations. Now we are able to share intimate details and feelings with one another, like a I-thou relationship. Its been an interesting journey, looking through the evolution of our relationship. The distance does hinder our relationship in some ways, but allows us to search and seek out alternative and more creative ways to communication and spend time with each other.
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The story of you and your girlfriend is so sweet! Spending time with each other more than two years is really not an easy thing to do, while keeping a really close relationship. I strongly agree with you that the relationship between couples would definitely change over time. They always start form I-you relationship, then getting closer and closer, and finally become I-thou relationship. At that point, they share everything to each other and truly trust each other. Communications between couples are really important, a simple misunderstanding may cause a serious problem. Therefore, keeping in a good relationship is really tough, it needs great communications from both people.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your lovely story!
-Denise