Our text describes five requirements for interpersonal communication competence are (1) developing a range of communication skills; (2) adapting them appropriately to goals, others and situations; (3) engaging in dual perspective; (4) monitoring communication and its impact; (5) and committing to effective and ethic interpersonal communication. I think one of the most important aspects of the author’s five requirement is (3) engaging in a dual perspective.
In developing a dual perspective, a communicator has to be able to not only know his or her own perspective, but also has to be able to put themselves in the other person’s shoes. By being able to put yourself into the other’s shoes we are able to connect with another person better, and engage with them in a more congruent and peaceful way. The text gives a great example of a mother who always held her ground with her daughter and never tried to understand her interests and her individuality. She noticed that by constantly limiting her daughter to things that she accepted, it was driving her and her daughter father apart. When she was able to put their differences aside and think with a dual perspective she was able to strengthen her relationship between her and her daughter.
Just like the story with the mother and daughter, I also believe that being able to think in a dual perspective is important for maintaining a healthy and positive relationship with those around you. Sometimes we have to learn to agree to disagree in order to create happiness and tolerance with those around us.
-jossshhuaa
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ReplyDeleteYou do make a valid point! Dual perspective is imperative for interpersonal communication competence. Most people don't stop to think why someone does or says certain things, and if they did, communication would become and easy factor. This way, like you stated, the person can put themselves in someone else's shoes, and see what makes them act in a certain way.
ReplyDeleteI believe the text's example can identify with many people with the same exact problem. The more you understand someone(especially someone kin to you) the better communication, which creates a strong relationship bond. Imagine if everyone sought eye to eye, life would be so much better(communication wise at least ha).
Good post
-lead_succeed