I don’t find myself in situations that really make me
extremely defensive or participating in disconfirming communication. When I
typically disagree with someone, it is normally with someone who I am close
with and feel confortable clashing ideas with.
One conversation that I remember recently happened a few
days ago. I was talking to one of my friends about her belief in Zodiac signs.
She didn’t firmly believed in it, but felt it had some legitimacy about how
people acted. We bickered lightly back and forth for a few minutes. I told her
how there is no way one’s personality could be determined by one’s birthday. We
both seemed very certain in our beliefs. I did not want to change my opinion
about zodiac signs and neither did she. Eventually, we changed the subject as
she said, “well you have your opinion and I have mine”. With that we moved on.
-Jossshhuaa
Hey Jossshhuaa!
ReplyDeleteI totally identify with your post, for I am not a very defense person and I do not participate in disconfirming communication as much. I am a pretty easy going person. It is definitely easier (and feels safer) to disagree with someone we are closer with. Feeling comfortable sharing ideas is very important in a friendship. I have also had friendly disputes between friends on certain topics. For example, the other day my friend wanted to eat some chicken wings and I told her to go for it. She said she didn't want to because she wanted to start eating healthier. I told her that she only has one life to live, and if she wants wings that she should eat them! At first she didn't want to, but a couple days later she caved in and ate some chicken wings. There are also more serious subjects that come up among friends, and if there is one thing I've learned, it's that sometimes we must agree to disagree. Everyone has their own opinions and we can't always confirm everything our friends or peers feel. And that is totally okay! Thanks for sharing, and for the record, I find zodiac signs absolutely intriguing. They can be so dead on about my personality!