All
friendships undergo some aspect of the development course of friendships. One
of my closest friends, Eugene, has been what I consider a best friend for a
while. We began our friendship in church. We talked and discussed Pokémon and
video games as children on Sundays. As we got older, we drew closer and closer.
Talking about more things, girls, cars, and much more. We even ended up going
to the same school for high school together and that just increased the strength
of our friendship. At one point we were inseparable and did everything
together. Unfortunately, as we both moved on to different colleges and began
working our friendship began to dwindle. We no longer talked as frequently. To
this day we aren’t as close as we used to be.
Its
interesting to see the different stages of friendship. Some friendships go
through all the stages, while others never get past a level of acquaintance. I
have yet to have a friendship that did not go through one of these stages. Have
you?
Jossshhuaa
Dear jossshhuaa,
ReplyDeleteYour right, friendships do in fact undergo aspects of the development course of friendships. They start as little things like you mentioned, seeing Eugene at church, and grow as time goes on. I think its cool that you had a really long term friend, but unfortunately you guys had to go separate ways for college. This most likely happens with everyone. We meet someone, become good/great friends, and the friendship dies off sometime. Personally, I have had numerous acquaintances in my 18 years, and compared to them, I have only had a few good friends. I believe this happens all through out our lives, but sooner or later, we will all have a friendship with someone or a few people that will not end.
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I have been through a similar phase with certain friends; however, I have come to realize that with people whom I consider best friends, even if it has been months/years since I've seen them, when we finally do reunite, it is like we were never separated at all. And most of my best friends, despite being busy with their personal life, make an effort to pop in every once in a while (even if it's just a text or email). Although, I do see where you are coming from with feeling disconnected with your friend after separating due to college. My best friend and I have also become a bit distant due to our busy lifestyles. I hardly get to see her as much and we don't talk as much as we used to. And due to our schedules, we have both found other friends whom we spend time with and have gotten close to. Despite all of this, we have maintained the aspects and expectations of a good natured friendship as explained in the chapter. I hope that you can be reconnected with this friend of yours!
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