I have been in a relationship where I was there was absence
of love or commitment. I’ve experienced relationships without commitment, and
relationships without love. Both are
situations that aren’t happy and are unhealthy, in my opinion.
The most recent relationship where I experienced commitment
without love was four years ago. I was in a relationship with this girl named
Hazel for a little over one year. I did love her at one point, and the
relationship was good. However, later through the relationship I realized that
she was not as mature I first believed and we began to fight and bicker about
everything. I was planning on ending the relationship soon if things did not
turn around. Unfortunately, at the same
time she began to experience a lot of family problems. Though our relationship
did not get better, I was the only one she could comfortably confide in. I no
longer loved her, but felt horrible if I were to break up with her and leave
her alone. I waited until her problems were solved a few months later to end
the relationship.
It was hard to pretend to love someone for a while, and
probably very wrong two. But I was young and had no clue what I was doing. Now
she’s on to better things, and so am I.
Hi Jossshhuaa,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading your post and I can relate. It's hard when someone is going through something or when they are so dependent on you for happiness that you stay in a relationship without love. It is hard to walk away from someone who "needs you" and who you have invested a lot of time and energy in when love fades. In my last relationship we were best friends but lost the connection so it was hard to end it but it was for the good of both of us in the end. I think the key is to be true to yourself and it will end up benefiting the other person if you let them go.
Great post. Thanks for sharing!
-rompersb
Great Post Jossshhuaa!
ReplyDeleteIt must have been very hard for you to stay committed to a person you did not love. I commend you for doing it though and do not think it was so wrong. If you broke up with her while she was in a delicate state it could have really crushed her. It is like someone kicking you when you were already down on the ground and that could have been really devastating to her. On the down side though you probably felt really bad for doing do and maybe even sacrificed some of your happiness to be a good friend to her. There is no real satisfaction in a love-less relationship. Anyway kudos to you for sticking it out a bit. This shows maturity on your part!
I can totally relate! I had a relationship as well where there was commitment but not love. Although my relationship was not as long, I was with an individual who did not love me. I wanted to end the relationship, but feared that I would lose the friends that I had made through my partner. Thus, I stayed in the relationship about a month or two longer than I would have wanted. However, it got to the point where I just could not stand being around the individual, so I broke up with her. I had talked to the friends which I was afraid of losing beforehand, and luckily we were all still on really good terms. Turns out they approved of my decision to end the relationship and felt that I was not being treated well. I believe that love AND commitment are required to build a relationship, and if for some reason one is not present in a relationship, then the relationship should be terminated. It is best for both of the partners in the long-run. Thanks for sharing your post, and I am glad you are much better off!
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