The I language and You language concepts really interested me in this chapter. In summary, I language is used to increase the quality of communication between two people. It does this by taking the focus off the blame of another person, and refocusing it on the feelings and thoughts of the person talking. A great example the text gave was instead of saying, “You hurt me”. One can say, “I feel hurt, when you ignore me”.
There are several advantages to using I language over you language. The first is that I language allows one to be more descriptive with their talk. Instead of just saying what the other person did to them, they communicate their feelings and emotions in a non-confrontational way. Secondly, using I language allows people to become less defensive. By eliminating the blame of someone’s actions, people are able to clearly express themselves without worrying about hurting the others feelings.
Personally, I am going to try to incorporate I language in my everyday talk more often. I feel it’s a great tool to increase the quality of my own communication. I hope you can find the I language useful as well.
-Jossshhuaa
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